Hi, my name is Ellie, welcome to The Roses - please also visit my profile on The
So what can you gain from counselling?
Feeling that a weight has been lifted by putting things in to a better place
You’ll be supported and listened to
I will be a sounding board to make sense of the changes you want to make in your life
Feedback and interaction from another person, which is important to gain fresh perspective and cannot be offered by books, apps or artificial intelligence
More patience for yourself and acceptance that you have done your best, so far, with your existing personal resources
Understanding of debilitating emotions, such as shame
Permission to experience those emotions you are less comfortable with and say how you truly feel
Become more present in your relationships
Learn to stop regretting the past, worrying about the future and enjoy the present moment
Contemplating counselling can raise lots of questions and I have answered a few below. There are lots more, of course and I'm be happy to answer them, so get in touch for
Will I judge you?
As soon as someone walks in to my room I am on their side and invested. I want the best for you, I am rooting for you to be the best version of yourself and whilst
we may not share the same views, I am not going to judge you for yours.
Will I think your problems are trivial?
This is a frustrating one, if something is important to you then it is not trivial. People have this idea that in order to use counselling you can only have been
dragged through hell in the past to justify looking for some support and this is not true. Using counselling is smart, it changes lives and it is for everyone.
Will I force you to talk about certain things?
No, I won't. You are recruiting me to support you, if I tried to force you this damages your trust in me, ruins our relationship and is counter productive to a positive
outcome. If there is a topic you need to talk about but would like to avoid, just say so and we will work towards it in your time. Sometimes just admitting you're avoiding something can
relieve a bit of pressure.
What happens if you feel emotional?
Go for it! Lots of people apologise if they cry; there is no shame for experiencing sadness, fear or anger, these emotions are perfectly natural and avoiding them only
causes a build up of more of the same. So please don't worry about this, I have plenty of tissues.
Will I analyse you?
It sounds cold and clinical which is not at all how I am. We're looking at different perspectives, exploring the meaning of things, making sense out of what has and
is happening. The key word is WE as we're doing this together. I can't read your mind but I will have a different insight because I haven't lived your life and that's the great benefit of
having me around, I can see things differently and you'll need that.
Will I be offended if you use swear words?
Absolutely not, swear like a sailor if that's how you talk, I want you to be yourself and use your language. There's a difference between swearing and being
abusive, the latter is not ok, but you already knew that.
Why 'The Roses'?
A little bit of metaphor; people who come for counselling can feel opposing forces within them as a result of difficulties in
relationships, complicated life events and experiences. This can create complex emotions that are overwhelming and cause uncertainty about how to move forward.
The Union Rose or the Tudor Rose as it’s more commonly known represents a union between these forces. The symbol was originally created
by Henry Tudor at the end of the War of the Roses, in which the warring houses of York (represented by the white rose) and Lancaster (represented by the red rose) were joined, bringing stability to
Roses symbolise balance, new beginnings and hope; outcomes to aim for during our work together. The thorns, which may lead you to
seek out counselling, signify pain and loss as well as defences, which are employed to help us cope.
We are not born with the knowledge of how to navigate all of these experiences, especially painful ones, which may leave us feeling
stuck. Counselling is a useful tool, providing support, consistency and space to make sense of the thorns in both the past and present. This insight provides new growth from where we can
start to piece together what direction to face in next.
I work with the following issues:
“When we seek help, people are there to help but you have to take the first step and ask for